So, I was thinking about the topic of loss and breakups(I know I'm a ball of fun). This idea that one day you could be sharing your life with someone, your time, your energy, your emotions, your thoughts and the next they are just a contact on your phone, somebody that you used to know. You used to know what they were doing at 11am on a Saturday morning, what they had for dinner that evening, the book they were reading - but now you are just strangers, just 2 of the 7.4 billion people going through life; breathing in the same air but too far from each other to talk about how it tastes. Let me ask you what feeling this evokes in you- If you’ve never experienced it, I’m sure you could probably imagine it. After just having gone through a breakup myself I can definitely say that it evokes a feeling of sadness and I don’t know how to put it anymore insightfully that that – the ‘here now, gone tomorrow’ nature of relationships is sad. But when I explored this further, I realised it wasn’t just sadness, like it was deeper than that, more profound than just sadness. I feel like the feeling that arises in us when we experience loss points to a realisation of a deeper truth – which is that, life itself is fleeting and indeed so is everything within it. Solomon captures the essence of this in Ecclesiastes: - “Life is fleeting, like a passing mist. On the onset this seems like a rather depressing lesson to grasp – what’s the point of investing in relationships and giving ourselves to love or indeed to anything if it is all fleeting anyway, if today it will be here but tomorrow it will not? As humans we were made to long for a forever kind of thing, we have ‘eternity in our hearts’ yet the one thing that seems to promise us forever seems to be sleeping on us – love. I desired a love that lasted forever and the ring that rested on the fourth finger of my left hand seemed to guarantee it; except it didn’t. So what is the point - what is the point in getting into relationships because we want forever when all they do is bring heartache? Well perhaps the fault is not in our desires but in what we look to, to fulfill them. Probably earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy it, but only to arouse it, to suggest the real thing C.S Lewis You see earthly relationships only tickle this desire that we have within us for forever, they only make us aware and in touch with this desire within us to give our whole hearts to something and for this ‘something’ to honor the magnitude of receiving our whole heart - by staying.
Earthly relationships echo the forever we long for but they themselves are not the forever. Even if you were to marry the love of your life and never get divorced, one of you would eventually die and the desire for forever would still be left unfulfilled. So, if it is not earthly relationships that fulfill our longing for forever, what is it, because logic and the laws of nature tells us that there must be something - 'Creatures are not born with desires unless satisfaction for those desires exists’ I believe that this thing is God; the only one, the only concept known to man to promise forever and deliver. And I don’t write this post to get you to believe the same and I am not a theologian, so I won’t go too much further into this idea. But let me leave with you this piece of advice, that I hope you can adopt whether you believe in a God or you don’t: Touch everything with your whole heart. If it is a man that you are loving, do it with your whole heart. If it art that you are creating, do it with your whole heart. If it is a poem you are writing, do it with your whole heart. If it is a career that you are in, do it with your whole heart. Because I think that to do things with passion, is the only way to live. It is the only way to inspire others When you look at the people who inspire you, the people that are excelling in the field that you perhaps want to excel in – I can promise you the one thing they all have in common is passion, because passion translates to excellence; every time. You have more to lose when you live with passion, but I promise you that you have so much more to gain. All my love Mayfair x
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